I write this blog as a way of getting through a difficult divorce with a difficult man who was the love of my life but turned out to be bipolar, self-absorbed and controlling. After being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, he told me he had never stopped gambling, an addiction that had caused us a lot of pain in our earlier years. This led to me filing dissolution papers before he had a chance to run up any more debts against community property.
Friday, October 26, 2012
It's Always Groundhog Day
One of the constants about living with Dad is what my sister and I call 'Groundhog Day'. For days on end you can count on having the same conversation over and over again. This week's Groundhog Day conversation is about money. I come into the hospital room and he says, "I haven't had aaannnnyyy money for dddaaaayyysss now." "That's right. You can't have any money. You're in the hospital and they don't allow you to have money here. They even ask that you send your money home with a family member." "No money? Why not?" "Because you don't need money when you're in the hospital. It might be a temptation to someone." "Well, what if I want to go buy some oranges at the store?" "You're not going to the store. You're in the hospital." "But I would like to have some oranges." "Then you can ask the kitchen to send some oranges." "Well, I would like to..." (he gestures reaching out his hand and rubbing his thumb and forefinger together) "give a little tip to people." "Hmmmm, Dad, these are professionals. And you don't tip professionals."
The next day. Same conversation.
And the following day.
And the day after that.
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