I write this blog as a way of getting through a difficult divorce with a difficult man who was the love of my life but turned out to be bipolar, self-absorbed and controlling. After being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, he told me he had never stopped gambling, an addiction that had caused us a lot of pain in our earlier years. This led to me filing dissolution papers before he had a chance to run up any more debts against community property.
Saturday, July 14, 2012
One Step
Tonight I took a step. This is probably quite commonly done by other people but is something I have never done before. Until tonight. Tonight I went to the movies alone. In the dark recesses of my mind, those deep places where thoughts and beliefs live but rarely bubble up to the surface, there must dwell an idea that a sign of independence and comfort in one's own skin is signified by a trip to the movies alone. I know this concept has existed in my mind for decades because I remember a time when Bill and I were on the 'outs' and I was going to go to the movies alone and it felt like I needed courage to do it. Bill and I were still living together but were split up and I was soon to be moving out. As I set off to the movies, Bill asked me where I was going. When I told him, he said, "You're going to the movies by yourself? That's very impressive. Good for you. In fact I'm so impressed by that, I'll go with you." And so it was that we went to "Top Gun", and I never really did go to the movies by myself. Until tonight. I saw "Brave" with 3D glasses, no less, and even paid full price. I discovered that if I took the glasses off, everything was blurry but I enjoyed the experience and the movie was pretty good. I recycled my glasses after the show was over, got in the car, came home, and felt very, very comfortable with the whole thing. I will do it again. I might not pay full price like I did. In fact, I don't plan on paying full price at the movies ever again. But I took the step, know I can do it, and will do it again.
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